Are you a giver or a taker? Perhaps like most of us you fall somewhere between the two.
Until recently I was definitely more of a taker. Of course, almost all young people are but there are ways to balance the equation. Studying to become a dancer is expensive and not only in terms of money. In my case, my parents have also given tirelessly of their time and of their time with each other by living apart for several months each year to give me a second home in London. I truly appreciate their support but perhaps I have taken for granted others such as my grandparents, my teachers, and even the scheme that has funded a large part of my training costs.
Writing has helped me to reflect on these things. It is three months since I started this blog which was in part established with the aim of attracting a sponsor. However, sponsorship is a two-way experience and I must be in a position to offer something of value, I cannot just hold out my hand expecting support.
With each post I give a little piece of myself and I’m still not completely comfortable with that. From feedback I understand the positive side; opening the eyes of other aspiring young dancers, their parents, even my own family and friends. Giving readers insight into my life has perhaps made me stand back and see where I am now more clearly. Vocational students of dance are a highly motivated and unusual group of young people and nowhere is this more apparent than at The Royal Ballet School.
It has been a positive start to my final year at White Lodge and although the days are long and tiring I am enjoying every moment. In using my languages I have been able to give support to two new students, one French and another from Italy. In return I have been rewarded with new friendships.
My biggest ambition is to give joy and excitement to those who watch me dance. Whatever lies ahead I believe a healthy balance between give and take is important, always erring on the side of giving.
My mum often says that the only person you really have to live with is yourself and I now understand how wise she is. As the saying goes, “The takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better”.